Marriage Moments will include questions and/or exercises to start conversations. They will provide an an opportunity to know yourself and your partner better. Check in with your LifeMate to see if this is a good time for them to answer these questions. If it is not a convenient time schedule a later time that would work for both of you. When you are the listener, show up with an interested and curious attitude. Be careful not to interrupt. After one of you has answered the questions, turn the tables and give the other partner their chance.
Set aside five minutes and take turns sharing around the following five themes…
P – POSITIVE Share a POSITIVE encounter that you had today (It can be anything positive that you encountered with people, with ideas, or experiences.)
A – APPRECIATE One thing I APPRECIATE about you today is… (We all benefit from being affirmed on little things as well as big things. Be specific!)
U – UNCERTAIN Something I am UNCERTAIN about is… (This is something I want to ask about, am unclear about, or am really worried about.)
S – SILLY Either something that added SILLINESS to my day was… (A good joke, something unusual, an unexpected encounter can add fun to our day. Humor renews.)
or
SAD or something that made me SAD today was… (This is not the time to share sadness about each other or your marriage)
E – ENERGIZE One thing that would ENERGIZE me is… (We all need a revitalizing shot. What is it you need personally to keep you energized at this time?)
Our hope is that “The PAUSE That Refreshes” will be a tool you chose to use a few nights a week. It won’t take much time out of your schedule, but it will pay dividends in the bank of connection. Have fun with it!
